Smart NRI girl can make Indian mother-in-law as friend
I am a computer engineer in Seattle, Washington.
I was born in India and I married an Indian through
the arranged marriage system. We are both computer
engineers and moved to Seattle about 8 years ago.
Soon after his mother came to visit us. She was very
difficult. She said very mean things to me. My husband
did not help me any. I told my husband how I felt
in not very nice words. She found out. All hell broke
loose. For almost two years my mil and I did not speak.
When I visited my parents I would not see her. She
did not want to see me. My husband and I almost divorced.
We separated for 5 months. My mil tried to force him
to divorce me. Finally, my husband and I had a heart
to heart. He understood how I felt and how hurt I
was. I understood how hurt he was by what I said.
He should have helped me. I should have talked to
him calmly. Anger blinded both of us. My husband and
I now have two kids. My mil and! I have become best
of friends. Sometimes my mil and I fight but then
we make up. It is the only way to have a real relationship.
It did not happen overnight but it did. Now I like
her to visit more than I like my mother to visit.
Many Indian marriages end because of mil problems.
They can be solved.
If you need advice e-mail at rekhaiyengar1@hotmail.com......Seattle,
USA
