Chandigarh, Mar 19, 2004
ANI
Girls marrying youths settled abroad and later being cruelly deserted
by them, has become a frequent phenomenon now, especially in the villages
of Punjab. So much so that the issue now touches the headlines. A group
of thus affected women recently moved government authorities in the
capital for action. The stories they have to relate speak of the cruelty
of fate indeed.
Jaswant Kaur's wedding to Surinder Singh in March last year was supposed
to the confirmed passport to a dream world for her-to go abroad, be
looked upon as an NRI sending home money. Fate, though, threw at her
this vicious nightmare. Perhaps deliberately, big promises came to nought
and she fights on.
"He used to come every year and promise that he would take me
with him. Once I even got an interview call from the embassy. But my
case was refused because my husband didn't have a job, and I had no
proof of my marriage to him. Later too, he promised several times but
they were all lies," Jaswant relates.
"Once he came after 2 1/2 years and asked for Rs 8 lakhs saying
he would take me through a private agent. My parents had already given
a huge amount on my marriage and subsequently too, and they couldn't
afford more. We finally decided to lodge a case in the Patiala court.
But little action has taken place. I remain where I was." Another
of over a thousand of victims in Punjab state alone. A seven-month pregnant
Virpal Kaur faces an uncertain future, as despite several attempts at
reconciliation she stands abandoned and alone.
For an Indian girl's psyche, it is life dying a slow, painful death.
"I was married on Feb 26, 2002 to Napinder Singh. He left the
same day. I went there on 11th September. There, after the first couple
of months, he started torturing me mentally and I was brought to India
on the pretext that my sister was ill. There was no such thing. My mother
retired on March 30. He put forward a demand for money to arrange for
my immigration. Then he just left. I don't know where he has gone,"
says Virpal Kaur.
Some of these women, married for the last 20 years and more, have never
lived with husbands for more than a fortnight at a stretch. Some of
them under a collective forum gathered to petition their cause to the
government - asking that the guilty be brought to book before they ruin
other lives, just as theirs have been.
The system itself requires a relook to stem the evil. B S Ramoowalia,
a former Member of Parliament and social worker has been lobby hard
for the cause of these young girls. He puts forward calls for formal
legislation and laws check the menace. "Give every girl the right
that if within 30 days of marriage her husband doesn't send all required
documents, or that if she suspects malintentions, she may file and FIR,
and no police station inspector can refuse it.
"Secondly, the girl should have all rights and control over half
the assets and property of the boy in the country. They can't be sold
without her consent.
"Third, immediately after marriage, the girl's photograph and
details should be appended to boy's passport. "And fourth, it is
up to the Indian Ministry of External Affairs to take steps to seize
the passports of those who commit this dastardly deed."
Most often, the youth to blame get out because of loopholes in the
system and procedures of law, wherein the buck for their arrest is passed
on from this country to that, and justice fails. he evil has assumed
the specter of organised crime and speedy measures are required to stamp
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