She began demanding a divorce but only after she is immigrated out of Punjab
to a foreign land.

It is sad to see how people have deteriorated the image of the NRI grooms. NRI grooms are usually viewed as villains and people of bad influence. However, this is not true. I am sure if we want to find a honest Panjabi inside India it will be a tedious task. It will be difficult but not impossible to find an honest Panjabi now days. I read articles where they portray NRI grooms as dishonest and cheat. I would like to ask people if the NRI grooms are dishonest and cheat then why they keep marrying their daughters to them? Why don’t they marry them to some honest Panjabi living inside Punjab? There is a reason for this. If they marry their daughters to non NRI grooms then their hunger won’t be satisfied. A lot of people will disagree with this. I am not writing it because I am an NRI and Panjabi but because I had really bad experience with Panjabi brides. I was only 26 when I got married to a Panjabi bride hailing from North Punjab and I really had bitter experience. I believe in simple marriage and it was carried out in the same fashion. The marriage was a set up for an easy access to foreign land but girl forgot to mention that she never liked me because she considered me too old for her when she was 19 and I was only 26. Few days after the marriage she mentioned it to me and I tried to work out things by telling her the good side of the marriage. The damage was already done and I was just trying to repair it but burned my hands so bad. Despite that I still wanted to bring her and then she began demanding a divorce but only after she is immigrated out of Punjab to a foreign land. I never agreed with those terms and broke my communication with her. Since that day I have never spoken to her. Last year some of my close relative went to visit Punjab and they were put under the police scanner by the girl’s parents. These were elderly couples who have never had any experience with the police and they left Punjab before the police could apprehend them. Even the police do not know if this was a civil case or what? They were following the same path as the girl’s parents. The girl’s parents were demanding huge sums of money to settle the case from them. I don’t know what people think of the NRI people. Do they think NRI are the currency printing machines? The greed of the girls’ parents forced them to take such an extreme step. People use their daughters to gain access to the foreign land and when it fails they turn around and use them as their shields to protect them and to extort money out of the groom and blackmail NRI grooms. Now I am 31 and fighting this battle. We tried to reach agreement with them by telling them how much we can pay them but they won’t agree because it will not fill their mouth completely. Is there any one out there who is honest enough to help me get out of this mess? I don’t think so because before even this story is narrated to someone they will also be thinking about one thing and one thing only: money.

If people can say every NRI groom is dishonest then I can say every Panjabi bride is also following the same path. Instead of blaming each other, we really have to look at ourselves and see what root cause of this problem is. The problems is the greed and deception that no one is aware of. I am sure there are a lot of Punjabis who have done some bad things by getting married to more than one girl but every one is not the same like every Panjabi girl is not the same. Some articles have made fun of the mid aged NRI grooms and stated that they should be ashamed for getting married to younger girls. To me this is an option not a binding contract that you can’t breach. For example, you go to a store to buy something and if you don’t like what you are offered you don’t buy it. Before blaming the mid aged NRI grooms, the girl have chance to say “no” to the proposal. Why blame them later on for being old when you had the option. I am not sure what happens to people who say they are so proud of their culture and heritage when they even decide to marry their young daughter to mid aged NRIs. The rich culture and heritage is all drama. Actually people in Punjab are very hypocrites, greedy and selfish. I am not sure what is going to be people’s opinion about it but I was told that I was too old for my wife. I was only 26 and this was mentioned by the girl’s parent only after the marriage had taken place. If I was considered old at 26 then I don’t know what people will say to people who are 31, maybe grandfather. I know lot of people will disagree with what I wrote and this will probably never get published but this article came from an experience backed by solid facts. I am an NRI and victim of such fraud and don’t know where to turn for help. I was upset after I saw all the articles were stereotyping the NRI grooms by portraying them as villains so I decided to write back justifying. Hopefully, someone who has experienced the same pain as I did will publish this article. Thanks for taking time to read this.

Very respectfully

Sunny
Washington, USA