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Unbelievable Story
by Toronto NRI
NRI DISCLOSES
HIS FRAUDULENT MARRIAGE EXPERIENCE
Toronto, Sep. 18, 2007
In December 2004, me, and my family went to India (Chikhli, Valsad,
Gujarat) to find a marriage partner for myself, and get married.
I met a number of girls through friends, family, and relatives.
In the end, I decided to marry to a village girl from Majigam (Chikhli),
named Hetal. There wasn’t a lot of privacy, as we were busy
visiting relatives, traveling, shopping, etc. I enjoyed my 10 days
with her, and then returned to Canada. While in Canada, I missed
my wife, and had thoughts of her, night and day. During the time
that I was separated from my wife in India, I sent her flowers,
money, gifts, and wrote her letters, emails, and talked to her on
the phone. In late may 2005 I received a strange phone call from
someone who claimed that Hetal had a boyfriend. I thought it was
a prank call, so I hung up the phone quickly. When I found out that
Hetal got her visa, I was getting so excited, and could not wait.
I told all my family, friends, relatives, and co-workers. In July
2005, Hetal arrived in Canada at Toronto’s Pearson International
Airport. But, little did I know about the awful nightmare, which
was going to take place...
Deserted NRI Bridegroom by run
away Indian girl after getting immigration?
On the first day of her arrival, Hetal did not seem very happy or
excited to see me at the airport. I initially thought that my wife
was just tired. On the drive home, she began to tell me that she
was going to leave me in 2 months, and that she only came to Canada
because of her parents. My eyes were hidden with tears. Things just
became more and more bizarre. Later on, when I called her sister
in New Jersey (Nimisha), and her parents (Dahyubhai, Kalavatiben)
in India, she was telling her family members that she was not going
to stay at my home (while I was present). She had asked Nimisha's
husband (Raju), when he and Nimisha were going to pick her up. Raju
had said they they'll come soon, but he had advised her to stay
at my home for the time being. She also mentioned to tell Neha about
everything, but I didn’t know what she had meant by this.
I could not understand why she was saying all these things. At bedtime,
I came near Hetal to kiss and cuddle, but she quickly got out of
bed, and said not to touch her. I told her that I was her husband,
and it should not be an issue to, to kiss, hug, and romance together,
as husband and wife. She, then, began to tell me that she never
loved me, her heart belonged to someone else, and that she never
accepted me as her husband when we walked around the sacred fire
during the traditional Hindu wedding. I was so shocked, and heart-broken,
but wasn’t sure if she was playing mind games. I called her
sister (Nimisha), and her parents, but they all denied that she
had a lover in India. On that night, Hetal went slept on one end,
I slept on the other end, and my mother slept in the middle. I had
decorated our room, and was so excited to re-unite with her, and
begin a new life in Canada, but it was a day that I would never
ever forget.
On Saturday morning, Hetal refused to talk to me unless I stayed
certain distances away from her. I tried to talk to her and she
again started talking about her lover, and said that all she thought
about was her lover. My family overheard everything that was being
said. I, later wanted to take her to the temple, but Hetal said
she was not feeling well. The drama continued throughout the day,
as Hetal did not talk to me or come close to me. Whenever I came
towards her, she would leave a few seconds later and go to another
room. This continued throughout the day, and my whole family was
under a great deal of stress. On Saturday night, she slept in my
mom’s bedroom again, while I slept alone in my room. The drama
continued similarly on Sunday, as she misbehaved at the mall and
the beach. I thought things would get better, but it didn’t.
There was just something wrong with this picture…
On Monday, I went to work and came home around 7 pm. On that night,
I had discovered that Hetal had called her lover (Nilesh [Dungri])
in India, and clearly indicated that she had no love for me, or
my family from the beginning. I felt very heart-broken, and almost
suffered a heart attack. My whole world had collapsed in front of
me. I had dreams of having children, and spending the rest of my
life with her, but the whole marriage was a sham. The woman that
I had thought was my soul mate was a fraud. That night, I confronted
her, expressed my deep feelings for her, and asked her how she could
have deceived me. I had never met such a person like Hetal, in my
entire life. I felt so betrayed. I was not breathing regularly,
and was very emotional, but my family was there for me. I explained
to my family about the whole situation. My mother had called Hetal’s
sister (Nimisha) in New Jersey, and she said to drop Hetal off to
a girl named Neha Ahir, in North York. Hetal did not apologize,
nor even say goodbye to me. She did not care, and was probably relieved
to leave. Hetal was dropped off to North York, and after this, neither
Hetal nor her family ever contacted me again. Their job was done,
so there was no need to contact me, or my family ever again. She,
and her whole family had planned all of this from the beginning.
Unfortunately, the story didn’t end there. The nightmare had
continued...
On Tuesday, I called work to request for a leave of absence. I also
called Citizenship and Immigration Canada (CIC) to inform them of
the situation, and they had informed me that I should write a letter
of inquiry (which I had done 1 day later). Later, that evening,
my cousin in New Jersey (who lives in the same building as Hetal’s
sister) called to say that Hetal's family had claimed that me, and
my family beat down Hetal, since her arrival. He informed us that
Hetal had filed a case against me to the police. When we heard about
this situation, me, and my brother went to the police station to
explain the police. The police officer refused to listen to me,
and placed me under arrest for assault and assault with a weapon.
My whole family was in tears. Without any kind of questioning or
investigation, I was placed in a holding cell. In February 2006,
I made a court appearance, and was cleared of wrongful charges.
In early 2006, I applied for an annulment to request that the marriage
never existed. Hetal had replied back to the annulment application,
and claimed for spousal support, return for her gifts & jewelry,
and also filed for a restraining order against me for no reason.
All the claims were lies. In the end, her claims were cancelled,
and the annulment was granted. With the annulment, Hetal has no
grounds to be in Canada, as the court concluded that the marriage
never existed. Hetal’s reason for coming to Canada was granted
on the basis of her marital status to a Canadian citizen, but since
the marriage never existed, she has no reason to stay in Canada,
and is not a member of the Family Class. It is now a matter of time
until this issue goes to the Immigration Refugee Board (Immigration
Division), to conclude the inadmissibility. I have no doubt that
Hetal will be held inadmissible. I will not let a criminal, like
her get away with this. I will see to it that she will be penalized
for her actions, and will do my best to deport her from Canada.
I have reported Neha Ahir to the RCMP recently, and will make sure
that they look into the matter, on human trafficking charges. If
I wanted to, I can still sue all parties in civil court for a huge
lawsuit against Hetal, her sister (Nimisha), father (Dahyubhai),
mother (Kalavatiben), Neha, and others. I can also file for fraud
in criminal court, which can land her in jail, but I haven’t.
If anyone of the parties starts another conflict, you can bet that
actions will be taken against all of them. I have dealt with enough
problems already, but I will keep my options open, if they initiate
one more time.
There are rules and regulations from the IRPA (Immigration Refugee
Protection Act), which are broken, and enforcement action must be
taken. Normally, these regulations, which are broken, include section
4 (bad faith), section 40 (misrepresentation), and section 41 (non-compliance
with the act). Citizenship and Immigration Canada (CIC), and Canadian
Border Services Agency (CBSA) need to make immigration fraud cases
a priority, otherwise there will be a huge class action lawsuit
against them in the future. Immigration marriage fraud is a huge
problem, as it is also a threat to national security. Possible terrorists
can come to Canada through a marriage of convenience. Many alleged
terrorists have come to the USA, through sham marriages, and terrorists
are always continuing to look for different holes, and coming through
Canada is one of them.
I know what it is like to be a victim, and even after 2+ years,
I still have not been able to get over the whole ordeal. Sometimes,
it is something that is beyond our control. For some people, no
doctor or medicine can heal someone with a broken heart. What Hetal,
her family, and Neha have done is inhuman. They played with my mind
and emotions, betrayed my trust, and tore my heart into pieces.
Every morning, I wake up, and just sit there, thinking about everything
that she has done to my family, my future, and me. I can’t
begin to understand how her parents, and the whole family could
agree to plot such an inhuman act, and live a daily life. Because
of all these things happening, I have lost my focus in life, gotten
into auto collisions, and lost over $30,000+ in spending.
As a victim, I know the horrors of this experience, and would not
want this to happen to anyone. After seeing what happened to me,
I began to hear about so many other similar stories in newspapers.
It came to me as a shock to learn how similar the victims’
stories were. It was quite interesting to know how every fraud knew
someone else in Canada, and it was this third party Canadian that
they happen to live with. It is hard to imagine that someone is
capable of committing this type of fraud in the first place, but
people are doing this, and someone must stand up, and be a voice
for these Canadian victims. I have been working with immigration
marriage fraud victims, and participated in protests, newspaper
articles, videos, radio shows, provided support for victims, and
accomplished a number of goals. In September 2007, a non-profit
organization called ‘Canadians Against Immigration Fraud’
in Ontario was formed. Mr. Sam Benet, the president, has done a
great job so far, and there has been a lot of support from victims
& families. I believe that this support will continue to grow,
with the help of many different communities, and community leaders.
A lot of people assume that this problem is only happening in India
and Pakistan, but this is not the case. A number of cases have been
received from victims who married from Afghanistan, China, Cuba,
Dominican Republic, Iran, Jamaica, Turkey, and other countries.
It is a national problem, and everyone must work together. The fight
has only begun, and even though it may take a lot of time and commitment
for this organization, the end result will be a success.
For more information, contact the president, Sam Benet, from Canadians
Against Immigration Fraud at 905-458-0505
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